tag.parentNode.insertBefore(s, tag); if you will. I dont feel comfortable using it as a full sentence because it sounds a little stilted to me, but I dont mind when other people use it. If I was having the chocolate tea pot situation I would write, Please let me know which option you prefer. I feel like more time is wasted when people try to save time on words and instead use please advise. where a I truly dont know what to do, please help me is completely warranted. 2 I am sending a communication to our executive team and will need their thoughts on how to proceed. Give yourself time to think When you receive an offer, it's common to ask for at least one day and up to a week to consider the terms. Important part: Dont say anything you dont mean or that isnt true. In choice experiments, respondents choose their most preferred option among different alternatives. I agreed upthread, but since people were disagreeing here, I wanted to +1 the passive-aggressive vibe. I think that phrases that only occur in print, like this one, lend themselves really well to misreading and speculation because weve never heard another person utter them out loud and for that reason can only speculate on the tone. This is surprising to me that people are offended by please advise. I see it as completely neutral. It is now on your side of the line. Makes my blood boil. Meeting subject: International Teapot Commerce. For example if a person has not done something huge, dont tell them they did. The former is what you usually say when you make yourself known to somebody. They havent been out plowing the fields; theyve been sitting under the picnic shelter in the shade with the rest of us! I heard sleeps used all the time in the US I think its a weird phrase. Also, Im hungry and mostly thinking about lunch. Nothing is worse than the evil Thanks in advance. To me it reads That was not a request! (Or, they just dont know better.). Before she became manager, wed had a jail escapee steal one of the staff cars. Its really good to conserve on Es, so that future generations may have some. ", Thanks for immediate response, really awesome application. It does havea slightly more formal feel to it than I prefer, but its not like the horrid and condescending gentle reminder.. Is that incorrect, Sparrow? We have a process for removing yourself from a distribution list, and replying to all to an email sent to the distribution list isnt it. Need to go to the loo: Im just off to do the needful. I know everyone has pet peeves, but for OP to think that its annoying and childish for using a phrase she doesnt like is a bit over the top. I guess I could take the time to type out Would you like me to continue doing this in the future? TextRanch lets you have your English corrected by native-speaking editors in just a few minutes. When Im sending one email to three or four people, I try to clarify who is copied on the email and why (and if its an FYI and no action is needed from that person, I say that), and if I have questions for separate people, I put them on to: field and in the body of the email state the questions like so: Jane: Whats the status regarding this meeting? It simply means, Hey, I would like your input on this. Otherwise, the recipient might just think its an FYI email. Ok, this is hilarious, because I used to this way today! So Ive taken to using Thanks, Dana every.single.time. Example: Just checking in to see if theres anything else you need from me so you can complete the [thing you havent sent back to me].. At my old job, someone forgot and send wrong email to an internal listserv with about 1000 people, she realized the mistake in about 5 mins and quickly sent and apology email and a note to disregard. I dont use that often, but when I do its because people occasionally read past the question parts of emails or respond to 1 out of the 2 things I need them to answer. I wish I could find out about Textranch earlier. It is a way of warning people to stay in the order they came. Thanks, Well, its one example. I used to manage a group of volunteers for a Nigerian 419 scam warning website. If you wish to keep things light, you may also get rid of the formalities to make your addressee feel at ease. I often see Please advise abused to avoid doing either of the above! There are a handful of people at work who use this on every.single.email. He told me it was standard while he was in the military. When it comes to email, how else are meaning and tone created other than via word choice? I can see how it might be annoying if overused. w.attachEvent("onload", loader); Sending The flight I was supposed to send this on is cancelled. WTF is wrong with you? Yeah, its more please give your overall thoughts or opinions on this matter versus a specific question. Labyrinthine One of my coworkers uses VR. If I am seeking a favor, I write, I would appreciate any advice you can offer on this issue. If I am writing informally to team members, I will use Please advise. I said yes, we do have a parking procedure. It drives me REALLY batty. I dont know. I think the world would be a somewhat nicer place if everyone did this. 7. } I am reflecting that the phrase I hate to be a pest, but can also come off as passive aggressive. I own a small business called Archetype Origins LLC, I will send you an invoice if you prefer to pay with a credit/debit card (taxes may apply). You could use for your client, but I don't feel it's needed for your in-company superior (unless you're in a big company and sending to executives). Sort of a I cant move forward without a decision., Yes, it can be a little like this is me, putting the ball in your court. If I have asked a series of questions, I put a final, actionable question at the end. But saying recieved, or acknowledged seems cold and robotic and something like Got it! would work except that I dont want them to think Ive literally gotten the package. I dont mean to be condescending or snarky at all, I thought I was being deferentially polite. ? I am in change management and I ruffle enough feathers. Option 1 likely will result in this behavior but Option 2 will accomplish this.. Prioritize Yourself. Two women went shopping and they decided to buy a jacket. Please let me know how you would like to proceed. I have been wondering how people bold or italicize here for ages, lol. If both are wrong then what would be the right thing to say. } So dont do drugs. What else was I supposed to say? When would I use this?. I dont think Ive ever written please advise or received an email that ended this way, so it surprised me that so many people have such strong opinions on it. Its just a . Can I help anyone? versus Who was next? If its someone who works for me, I dont want to be notified of a problem without their thoughts/suggestions/proposed solutions. Milos, if there's anything else you'd like to discuss, Which is why I wanted to ask, if there is anything I can do to help make it right. Hence, the please advise. You have travel plans, either work or non-work related You have a doctor's (or vet, or some other) appointment You have a religious commitment You're attending a conference or industry event You want to attend your child's school event, recital, or game You're dealing with a family matter You're dealing with a health matter Shed been told about that by other staff, so I reminded her of that event, and then said, this is one reason the parking procedure was put in place. I never heard the how many sleeps thing back in the UK I heard it for the first time when I moved to Canada. I use it fairly frequently, usually in a context like this: We have a situation with the chocolate teapots. Its so delightfully vague! There was another word that was used differently than standard American English was it something like presently instead of soon? My current manager is really fond of the smiley faces in outlook, so I have a rule button that replies to messages with just a smiley face. Boss: Theyre all fine, I dont have any real preference. Can you please at least acknowledge that you are holding up a thing that the CEO asked for and we are STILL waiting on you?? There was pretty much no correct response you could give. })(window, document); 2023 TextRanch, LLC. The opposite way is: knoweldgabley explain something factual and then use make sense? to see if the other person is following you. I think it sounds a little formal, but not offensive, so this letter surprises me a bit. If the question has been asked, I will answer it. She said the word alright way too much. Thats the way I use it too. and it drives me insane. Try these: Yes, Wednesday suits me fine? Get it corrected in a few minutes by our editors. The original model was created digitally in Nomad Sculpt . The following dates/times (EST) work for me: Monday, 1/24: 11am - 12pm EST; 2pm - 3pm EST. I also cant stand all caps in emails. I cant see anything remotely annoying in the phrase though I dont use it myself. That would annoy me, too. I think I agree with the letter writer on this one. Im saying heres the situation, tell me what to do.. When a new checkout opens up, if they say the first one, theres practically a riot to see who gets there first. AHHHHH. They tend to ping out emails on the hoof: Just heard that Wakeen has a problem with the Lid Committee. Ive already posted something like four comments in this thread, which is kind of amazing since I dont think Ive ever consciously considered my thoughts on please advise before. I admit that I have a visceral reaction to the use of the words please advise (and ALL CAPS and soft reminders and read receipts). I love Please advise and use it without a second thought where appropriate. Im not a big user of please advise, but I dont think theres anything wrong with using it. if (w.addEventListener) { no seriously, when you send a lot of emails to lots of people needing input, decisions, updates, etc, you have few options to close your email, so you trot these out often. as a manager, should I not wear a childless shirt in my off-hours? Being a defense agency, an acronym was created: V/r. 4. I once had a relatively high ranking political official email me and ask me why I was trying to ruin his career. Yes, but plenty of people use it earnestly: as in, hmm, havent heard back hope they didnt forget but dont want to be a nag. Could you please advise? I feel that, if I leave this last sentence out, my email will sound bratty without it with an underlying message of, Theres a problem with your request, DO SOMETHING. Because it was sitting in my barn / shop for over 12 years!! It just comes off as sort of short to me, especially when there are . I figure my bolding in emails annoys some people, but I do it because those people typically dont read the important parts and never respond. Please let me know when it completed or Please let me know when it complete? It was almost like a rhetorical statement, since we all already knew the mistake had been made or the deadline had been missed. Now, someone in IT has figured out how to make all emails related to a conversation *poof* from the entire email network when something like this happens, so nobody has the email anymore to reply to all. Because it is deferential, I would view it as an obnoxious phrase only if used by a manager to a direct report and not vice versa. 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