My 2 yr old granddaughter started about 3 wks ago covering her eyes when changing her diaper. Child protective services should be totally defunded and shut down!! Then orabelle my daughter said ok let's take picture of you and again this little girl freaked completely, I don't know why this little girl is so afraid of pictures of herself or drawing of herself, like I've. You arent doing anything wrong, its your dad. and C.P.S. It has damaged me even though it didnt happen to me. Except that offenders are never 'cured'. I asked who showed you their wee wee at your dad house? Most people don't know what signs to look for, or they overlook the little clues in front of them. Recently we finally went threw the potty training. She had fear in her eyes and started crying so i comforted her and asked the same question then she say no i ask why she tells me that mommy is gonna get beat up so im real concern now so i asked her again she tells me dadfy told me to touch his wee wee. I'm fine with it but of course its hard on his dad to want to believe it. Well, it's 6 months later and now she's 3 years old. social worker told me that wasn't going to help me and there I was in bad predicament so don't think Diane that they'll help you cause they don't. If your child tries to touch children or adults in their private areas, or if sex suddenly becomes a topic. Wish we knew each other in real life. N just last night my cousin called me over their which isnt a boy n he is 11 saying the step dad hit him so he hadnt to stay with us ! I even remember every time id watch a scary movie id wanna sleep in the same bed as dad. Child protective services are absolutely good for nothing! I hope what I have said resonates and you were able to learn a few things about the English language and can better your grammar for later writing. Get a lawyer. I reported the abuse to the local police department and my child was sent to a Dr who was a specialist in examining sexually abused children. She's done a fb hate campaign against me. 2 Sometimes kids exhibit sexualized behavior simply because they don't understand that it's not appropriate. I was in a relationship w him for 5 yr and i have a 3 yr old girl i worry for. And she just kinda left the thought alone . Like his identity is split into 2 people. We had both good years and good times together, and yet here I am. I can never sleep at night because of the guilt and gained 50lbs. Will he ever change? it hurts mommy and I don't want her to come to our house. Ive notivef hes been scared on taking baths, he does talk about monsters, he cries when I have to let him go to his mothers(her cousin is the one that did it)and refuses to go. An easier way to think of it - and to teach children about it - is by contrasting "good touches" and "bad touches.". and the weird part is he did often go out exactly when we stepped into the shower, and came back in after we came out of the bathroom. my 4 1/2 year old will hit, pinch, push and touch other children inappropriately at daycare (unprovoked) . He left me in the sauna with the girl. It happened right next to me, to my best friend. An affectionate parent can pat, physically play with, and wrestle with a child in ways that are simply off-limits with an adolescent. I put him in time-out and he mumbled to himself repeatedly "no one wants to see your ugly thing," or "you know you should not do that," and "you know mama will ground you." The reason Im here I was looking online about all the child abuse . Believing for help!!! Take her to counseling to help with the trauma. What do I do. It is okay to discuss it with your child, but you simply must do it with extreme caution and care. This will invalidate any legal tricks the abuser can come up with when you decide to come foward with the accusations. my child touches me inappropriately 27 Feb. my child touches me inappropriately. I'm her mother, her only parent and as her parent my main job was to protect her and I feel like I failed her. Ok so we went to dcf about this aligation and the woman could not get it out of him what happened, so she had us go out back and talk with them, she asked him "how were they touching you?" Inappropriate touching falls into two categories: Touching that is sexual in nature: This is unsolicited or unwanted touching that involves a person's genitals, buttocks or private parts. To speak with someone who is trained to help, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673). By definition, child sexual abuse includes inappropriately subjecting or exposing a child to sexual contact (touching), behavior or activity. Coming soon.. Hello reader, I am having an huge problem and need advise. I just read an article that has really upset me . It would be interesing to know about your credentials and where some if this information is coming from and whether it is fact or opinion. So the first thing to do is to separate the child from the abuser, and to ensure there is no further communication between the abuser and the child. I felt terrible. My sister is 7 years older than me. Sexual kissing. He seems so offended but I'm no fool. I just can't prove it. His favorite word is stupid and he trys to touch my breast and even tried to touch my private parts threw my clothing . The smell of sex and certain alcohols terrify me. What can I do. There has to be evidence like the detective said. Im noticing alot of the symptoms i have been reading online. It's been 15 months now with no contact. The mother, who lives in a suburb of a major city, called at least 20 places looking for help before she found a program that took juvenile sex offenders. A child might sit or play alone, expressing decreased interest in games, toys and kids. As a mom of children who were sexually abused, my advice is first of all: put a restrainig order against the abuser protecting you and the children. If his/her private area looks weird; report it. took me years to talk about it. "If you are in a confusing area, call Darkness to Light or speak to a professional. The National Child Abuse Hotline is 1-800-422-4453. His dad is in the military so him and his parents moved around a lot. They are broken. He came out of the bathroom and says "hey grandma, look," pulled his pants down and moved his penis back and forth. My son cant even take his shorten off or his diaper without help ! Then it all bow up! A child could be exhibiting inappropriate sexualized behavior for many reasons. She seems to like it but it still seems bad to me. Then she tells me mom I dont like when he puts his tongue in my mouth. I feel like a scared bunny that's about to get it's intestines squeezed out by a giant hawk. It's British, and their past tense word for spell. and shes like he's a man afterall Anyways she's never said anything happened between her and dad and dad was always a very respectable person in many peoples eyes so i never even considered that it could be true. One day the truth will come out and when it does they will owe my baby an apology. Really?! My five year old came to me one day and told me that her aunt has been molesting her. She started at this daycare a few weeks ago and so far there has been no problems. About 5 months ago my boyfriend told me that he sees figures. These are all signs and things to watch for. My daughter is a proper daddy's girl. I thought she was crazy, i always said that no way would he do anything, its so not his character to do anything improper. Well they had us go there and visit our home once and then was just told recently they colsed the case back in April???? You must figure out what behavior is normal, healthy, and age-appropriate and what is inappropriate and alarming. He admitted it to the DCF and pointed out the guy in a picture.He had a specialist interview him but he never told them anything. Rubbing their body against others. He's in year one and virtually since starting school he has been displaying the constant need to touch others. She just randomly says things. I'm actually surprised you used the word "there" in the wrong places more often than in the correct ones. I've a 3.5yr old daughter. Which brings up the next crucial step. My 4 year old just told me my bf of a year and a half pulled down her pants and spit on her. That way, your child knows it's also your job to protect them. We found out last week that he lured her with a promise of a present to an off-limits bathroom during after school and then pulled down her pants. I immediately dumped the beer and hid in my room. I am not sure if any of this means anything or not, I just know I would never allow my child to behave in this way, and I know it is not my place but there is something going on with this child. She is very spoiled ( which most children are these days), but will throw a terrible tantrum if she doesn't get her way. why is it now different with him who is a muslim and i am white? and - Answered by a verified Mental Health Professional. They look for kids who are unhappy, needy, lonely, and hungry for attention. When i was 18-19 my sister found out he was cheating on my mum. I have had custody of my grandson since he was 15 months old . they took my daughter to the hospital and said they couldn't find any dna and that due to her being in the shower their was no way of telling. A contraction is when two words are combined by an apostrophe to make one word. I tried to just push that into the back of my mind and just bury it. The only things that matter is what the child is feeling as a result of being molested (real or imagined) and what can be done to fix the enormous damage the child or adult lives with afterward. You as the parent have to do whatever is necessary to protect him. Kk follow your instinct as a mother. He's kind of mean to the kinds. "Child sexual abuse is incredibly harmful," Letourneau says. I wanted to go and shower the man said us first pls. If you have any doubt, follow your intuition or you will end up in endless torment like me. What should i do? He is mentally and emotionally abusive to her . The dr told me there was no evidence of my child being abused, but that didnt mean it wasnt happening. Your daughters that are learning shit like this from an older person isnt learning how to do it to other kids and it isnt not cool ! An example would be with the words, "knew"and "new," as well as "know" and "no." Instead, go to school to get the facts and make sure you know what your son is being accused of doing. because of how the DHS handled it last time and she didn't want to tell me what was going on. He threatned me that if he heard me ever mention another word of abuse, my custody and my child would be taken away from me. He dipped me back on the bed and try to insert his fingers into my private. Let them know you love them. He made me delete all social media, Im not allowed any friends, I cant leave without telling him everything Im doing. She would be happier if she knew that nothing is happening to you. He was recently moved to his fourth facility, and she doesn't believe he's coming home anytime soon. Then comes to tell me that she went potty. But the most bizarre thing that has me troubled is, just this past weekend she went and got up in her 15 year old sister's lap, like she was going to cuddle with her and then she peed on her sister, on purpose, and then thought it was funny. Instead, they love you. However, it can also be a sign of something more serious. All calls are confidential. I hope you tell her or someone else you trust. Can anyone give advice. I would repeatedly ask her not to do that but she continued to undress them. My 5 or 6 year old cousin hasnt been around me much she came around for my graduation and couldnt stop touching her pp I later on found out that she had a yeast infection which everyone was saying could be common if they take a bubble bath accidentally saying to my mom well walking into I food place that she shouldnt let her daughter get this bad she overheard me as we sat down to eat my aunt whispers under her breath that it was from her bubble bath since my cousin whos a girl has a twin brother who is male I was faceing him while my aunt said this as my male cousin nodded his head no while his mother was whispering from the bubble bath as soon as she sees my boy cousin nod his head no she immediately corrects him telling him what are you doing get over here well he had been acting out the whole time before but everytime failed to correct him untell then I call 911 and they send me to another source who called me back a few times asking my about myself only to tell me that I was a chronical lier and that if I were to report this again or anything like this they were filing charges for incorrect accusations although I never directly asked my cousin the signs were strong and didnt feel the need to I didnt know simply asking athourtys to check in on somthing would suddenly turn me into a chronic lier? 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